hello october

Puddles are for jumping.

Meow!

Meow!, originally uploaded by Sweet Freak.

We're invited to an all-ages Halloween party. And by all-ages I mean that technically it is a party for a soon-to-be one year old, who had the good fortune to be born last October 31st, but parents are invited and costumes are not optional.

Steve is in a tizzy. He's a bit of a spoilsport when it comes to dressing-up. He's been sporting the MadMen uniform (dark suit, pocket square, cufflinks) since I met him 10 years ago and I think he finds costume wearing deeply undignified. I can't imagine why.

But I think I've found a perfect solution.

spoiled for choice

As much as I love summer, fall is real good too.

Thank you, Lisa, for that super-fab comment last week. As the owner of a comment-challenged blog, I really do enjoy hearing from you. As for the house renovation, it's chugging along rather more slowly than I'd expected. We are still in the planning stages with an architect and a contractor who, no surprise, do not see eye-to-eye. We opted to not build a second story on our bungalow (money, time, hassle) so we are taking our inspiration from petite but efficiently-designed spaces - like Scandinavian apartments, NY hotels, even ship cabins - and making our every square inch useful and functional. If I get my act together I will scan and post some magazine images that I find inspiring.

What I have learned so far is that there is no telling an Ikea Abstrakt kitchen cabinet from an Italian high gloss that costs four times more. Also, there really is no such thing as "just taking out a wall." And granite counters are the sisal carpets of the kitchen; I'm going with Carrara marble - provided our house does not have asbestos. Yes. Asbestos. We learned years ago that the attic is probably insulated with something called Zonolite - a common DIY insulation back in the 1970s. In fact, our neighbour told us that one of the owners of our house worked for a company that sold Zonolite - a situation that would seem to render the $375 environmental analysis we have to do pointless. But we need to be sure before construction begins. Removal costs $1,000 a square foot. An obscene amount of money, money that I would much rather spend on a Carrara marble kitchen counter and a sink like this one. Fingers crossed good people.

Steve is away for a few days which means a) we had pancakes for dinner tonight, b) the kids were in bed at 8:00, and c) I am counting down to 10:00, a plate of cheese and grapes at my side (because carbs just go right through me). Flipping Out, my favourite show, is on and I can finally see just went down with Jenny and Chris without Steve rolling his eyes and muttering disapprovingly. Life is good.

My kids are used to me photographing their food, their feet and occasionally their faces, but taking pictures - with flash - while they're sleeping is new. When you live in a bungalow privacy and the separation of living and sleeping areas is something of an illusion. A game, really, but a game that we all play. At night we, the grown-ups, tuck the kids into bed and say good-night, and then we walk seven feet down the hallway to the living room/kitchen where we talk, make popcorn and watch television as if the kids couldn't hear a thing. This, even though I could hear them breathing if the TV weren't so damn loud. To their credit the kids stay in bed. And our part of the deal is that we ignore the scurrying, the giggling and the occasional thud that emanates from down the hall. Until they're asleep and then we investigate. Tonight I found Stella had created nice little sleeping dens for her favourite animals. I like that they're sleeping cozily in pairs. Along with her bed sheet and some clothes, that's her turquoise swimsuit bottom in the foreground. Kids are funny.

sunday-ing

The beginnings of squash and whiskey soup. For a picture of the final (delicious) product, see my guest post over at Broccoli & Prosecco.

A beautiful fall day calls for a drive through Forks of the Credit, a picnic lunch in Belfountain, and a stop at a farmer's stand for Honeycrisp apples, carrots and a home-baked pie. Fall is good.

Swap Meet

If you haven't yet picked up the October Martha Stewart, what are you waiting for? It's a terrific Halloween issue with a bounty of crafty ideas. Which got me thinking (and making broomstick party favours last night) about a Halloween swap.

Here's how it'll work:
1. Make one sample of your favourite Halloween craft. It could be a party favour, a decoration, an invitation, an edible. It should lend itself to being made in 15 to 30 minutes.
2. It does not have to be an original creation, though those are always extra-welcome.
3. On swap night, October 17th, bring enough supplies to make 5 to 8 more.

The idea is that everyone in the group will have a chance to make, and leave with, a handful of finished projects and a bunch of new crafts in their repertoire. All levels of crafters are welcome!

The swap meet will be Friday, October 17th 6:30 pm at Honeybunch, 3885 Bloor St. West in Etobicoke. You'll also need to email me by the 11th simple step-by-step instructions and finished photos of your craft, along with a materials list. I will collect and circulate among the group after the swap.

Contact me nicole(at)honey-bunch.com if you're interested in joining.

all in the family

The trees - I think they're lindens - that line our street shed branches like other trees drop leaves. Our walk and road is perpetually littered with twiglets. But where I see yard work Stella sees opportunity: she's been selling *chopsticks* made from their fallen branches. This morning they were "going for low" because of an over-inventory problem. A nickel bought me two (more) sets. God help me if she actually expects me to use them, because they are not really very chopstick-like at all. They are rough branches taped together with a bit of blue tape pilfered from my painting supplies. But the kid sells the sizzle not the steak. So I buy. Everyone does. She's made three bucks this week.

So a big YAY to Stephen Harper for his election announcement yesterday that he intends to extend maternity benefits to the self-employed. He's got my vote. Stella's too.

Sunday: Queen West Art Crawl

The Queen West Art Crawl was this weekend and I've been looking forward to it all summer. It's my favourite festival because it's a mix of art + craft, it's totally low-key and we've always found something interesting and affordable and what could be better than that? Our five-year old couch may be from Sears but damn if we don't have some fine art on our walls. This year two things conspired against me and QWAC: torrential rain yesterday and today a busted washing machine. I'm used to things breaking down around here and normally I make a mental note to add it to the list for the handyman I'm planning to hire some day. But a washing machine just won't wait. Not with a sodden load of training pants inside. No sir.

We headed to Sears where we bought a replacement washer (a big old top-loading model with dials - a rebuke of the new-fangled electronic model that has let us down three times in the six years we've owned it). I really hate being a responsible adult sometimes. Penniless but back in the laundry game, we headed to the show. Between the no-money thing and the roaring coming from the stroller once Henry spotted a playground it was a quick visit, but a fruitful one. We bought a cool cowpoke painted on reclaimed wood for Henry's new room. Cute art for boys is hard to come by. I was really taken with this booth - love the monkeys in cow-hide chaps - and ended up buying several pieces for the shop. Henry's room is taking shape and I'll have pictures to share soon.

Post-script: While clearing a path in the laundry room in advance of the new machine's arrival tomorrow, the dead washer unexpectedly sprung to life. It's worked like a charm all night. No kidding.

double spinach + pepper jack wrap

A spinach tortilla + baby spinach leaves with pepper Jack and sliced apples. Quite possibly the perfect lunch: tasty, hearty and mostly healthful (looking at the picture I see there is probably more cheese than apple.) I'd like to try this with a more adventurous cheese, but the mass-produced processed variety is hard to resist when it's $5 off for a two-pack at Loblaws.

Over dinner tonight at Margherita's Mexican the subject of taking pictures of food some how came up - I'm not talking Donna Hay-ish styled photography, just ordinary meals. Turns out my friend and her friend have started a blog, Broccoli & Prosecco, (she's Prosecco) which documents their lunches and everyday meals. Fun. I've asked if I can guest post. The wider world needs to see my tomatoes.

an apology is in order

So there I am, just minding my own business and not thinking mean thoughts, honest, as I use my fingernail to scrape a squished grape off the carpet (though who could blame me if I were to feel a tad hostile, this being hour three of house cleaning and I've barely made a dent) when I see, as if for the first time, this black shoebox that has been allowed to sit on top of the TV cabinet for a week. Probably two. I'm not being critical, but seriously, Stella is a pack rat. I don't know where she gets it.

To her an empty shoebox is an invitation to start a new collection or, as in this case, bring together miscellaneous objects from other collections into a new grouping, whose significance and connection is known only to the curator. I love her collections, as baffling as they are. I don't ask her to explain them or defend them or justify them. I don't even ask her to keep them all nice and tidy in her room (though that one is obviously just bad parenting). And as I said I really was not in a bad mood when I threw out the box. Not the contents, mind, just the box.

Steve has warned me for years about my midnight runs to GoodWill. There may be folks who ask their kids for input on which toys should go - I am not one. If I think it won't be missed, it goes. If there are so many pieces missing that I would have to call the manufacturer for replacement parts before anyone could play with it again, it goes. So the shoebox went. I never, never, would have done it had I thought Stella would miss it, but miss it she did. A painful morning for us both. And a lesson learned by me.

The unremarkable and the supremely important co-existing in a shoebox. That's what life is like, don't you think? Not to get all philosophical on you or anything.

happi

No sign of autumn. Squeezing every drop of summer. Barbeque for dinner. Again. A big boy bedroom. Moving furniture. A sore back. Taking stock of closets, clothes and school uniforms. A house in pre-renovation mode. Clutter! Take a breath. A fresh day. Coffee in the sunshine. Much better. A trip to the flea market. A happi find. Earlier to bed. First day of Senior Kindergarten. A new year...

summer love

Finishing off summer the right way: water balloons and a run through the sprinkler. Though Henry preferred a quiet read in the shade. Elmo. Compelling.



Despite the best stretch of weather we've had all year, Labour Day signals that it's time to put away summer, if not literally then at least symbolically. And so hair was thoroughly shampooed for the first time since June. Bedtime was brought forward an hour. Back-to-school clothes laid out. Senior Kindergarten awaits.

reno fever

Beautiful bathroom by Brown Design.


I *heart* Jeff Lewis. And I don't care who knows it.

We are gearing up for a make-over of the tired, old bungalow. A real make-over. With an architect's drawings, a proper contractor and six months worth of Tums in the medicine cabinet. My clippings file swells by the day. I talk to myself in the car, debating the merits of a Carrara marble kitchen counter or new appliances (we can't do both). I look for inspiration in many places, but none more frequently than Jeff Lewis' deluxe pads - all of which are many, many, many square feet larger than our humble home, but I believe small yet well-appointed spaces can be beautiful too.

I was perusing the advice column in a waiting room magazine yesterday when I experienced a moment of self-awareness: some soul queried "When should I be worried that I'm too involved in a TV show?" I've had television crushes before (Lost, Dexter, Flight of the Conchords, Mad Men and once, ahem, the OC) but my love for Flipping Out and all things Jeff Lewis has become a little problematic in a one-television household. Apparently watching the same episode twice is being "hoggy" but watching online until the wee hours is "concerning."

Yes, Jeff Lewis is a mad genius. I personally thing Chris Kesslar was a big baby for not stealing the neighbour's avocados. Say what you will about Jeff and co., you have to admit they make beautiful homes. Ryan Brown, Jeff's partner on the show, has his own LA-based design outfit, and I was delighted and, yes, just a little bit validated that he used the Jonathan Adler bamboo chandelier I've chosen for my decidedly less-grand foyer. Do you love it or do you love it?

everyone loves marineland

Stella and Henry have been captivated by Marineland commercials for weeks, so we capped off the summer with a weekend in Niagara Falls. Their fascination had less to do with actual marine life and more to do with rides and the overflowing gift shop, but I think Stella would agree coming nose to snout with Nootka was pretty cool.

I haven't been to Marineland since I was a kid, and to see it through jaded ($150 admission?!) adult eyes was interesting. Outrageous prices aside, there is an unslickness about the place I find kind of endearing. Like the weird font. And those funny wood-burned signs. And the vaguely Bavarian-style architecture of the little huts that dot the park.




But the highlight (Nootka antics aside) for me was watching the teenager inflate hundreds, no thousands, of vinyl walruses inside the gift shop. Next to the pair of lifeguards who whiled away the summer playing Gin Rummy at the splash pad by our house, this dude has the best summer job ever.

harvest

The veggie patch runneth over: tomatoes the size of small pumpkins, and a bounty of cherry toms so profuse, so perfect, so delicious I do believe I need a stall at the farmer's market. I'm enthusiastic about my backyard garden every summer, but this year we've been eating them straight off the vine, sharing great bowls of them with neighbours and there is still more than we can use. With such a bounteous harvest, there's only one thing to do: fresh tomato sauce. Lots of it. If I can't spend August in Amalfi sipping Limoncello I'll spend it eating angel hair pasta tossed with garlicky-good sauce. Believe it or not, the best (and easiest) recipe I've found came from a GQ magazine five years ago. I've since lost the actual recipe but it goes something like this:

4 - 6 medium to large ripe tomatoes
2 whole cloves of garlic, peeled, smashed and finely chopped
Lots of fresh basil, coarsely chopped
1/2 cup extra-virgin olive oil
kosher salt
fresh ground pepper (if there is one thing I'd gladly banish from every kitchen it is sneezy, bitter, powdered pepper)

Coarsely chop the tomatoes - discard the stem and core
In a broad, shallow pan heat some of the olive oil, warm up the garlic (don't let it brown or burn). Add the tomatoes & salt to taste, turn up the heat to an almost boil. Let it bubble and cook (this softens the skins so you don't have to peel the tomatoes) for 5 - 10 minutes. It should thicken up a bit but still be chunky. Remove from heat, transfer to a big bowl or serving dish and add the basil. If you add the basil while it's on the heat, the leaves turns brownish and unattractive. Add more salt if needed and a swirl of olive oil. If your tomatoes are acidic add a dash of sugar. Let it all stand for 10 minutes or so while the pasta cooks. Add the cooked pasta to the sauce and use tongs to dress. Lots of fresh parmesan slivers and fresh cracked pepper. Buon appetito.

life through the zoom lens

You might recall that I received a new camera, a Rebel DSLR, for my birthday back in January. I wanted a "real" camera for some time, having run up against the limitations of my trusty instamatic Fuji Finepix. Don't get me wrong: you can take a damn good picture with a slim silver, but I wanted to do more. As it turns out, it was a bit like trading in a Saturn for a Porsche. Too much power. The LCD screen was dizzying. The 3-page menu inscrutable. The manual settings eluded me. In the eight months since I got it I haven't taken a decent picture. The logical thing would be to take a course and learn how to drive this thing properly, and I'd still like to do that, but the other day I took a closer look at the instruction manual and when the answer to my vexing exposure problems presented itself I yelled out aha! and began snapping.

This one is probably a little over-exposed, but I like Stella's expression. It's not often I catch a contemplative moment.




Playing around with the self-timer. Blurry, yes, but I like it.

But it's 3:00 am

Or thereabouts.

"I want bekon"
"I want bekon"
(louder)"Mama I want bekon! Bekon mama"

Cue the bleary-eyed stumble into Henry's room.

"What do you want Henry?"
"Bekon"
"Your blanket?"
"No! I want bekon. I want BEKON!"
"What? Bekon? Your blanket? You want your blanket? Where is your blanket?"
(howling) "Bekon! Bekon! I want some bekon!"
(incredulously) "Bekon? Bay-con? Bacon? You want bacon?"
"Yes. I want bekon. Now. Bekon now!"

I mean really. Being awoken by an earache, a poopy diaper or a leg trapped in the crib bars: all valid. But crying for cured meat in the middle of the night? My patience has limits. Of course the bacon hullabaloo has woken the other two members of this family and as we shimmy blankets and pillows and make room for two more bodies in the bed, I can no longer sleep because I'm trying to puzzle what he could have been dreaming about. Was he counting slices of peameal instead of sheep?

It all means I have a raving headache today - I am a ten-hour a night gal - and woe to us all if I'm denied my beauty sleep. The thing is, the real point of all this, I suppose, is that we are talking about having another baby. I'm waiting for a sign that I should or I shouldn't and the Super Eight ball is being maddeningly ambiguous. Being awoken by cries for bacon = not so good. Waking up in the morning in a tangle of little feet and arms and baby snores = kind of nice. Makes me almost stop thinking about bacon.

Henry's Big Boy Room: the inspiration

dresser, now with drawer pulls, originally uploaded by aoneko.

When Henry's nursery school teacher told me he was ready for underpants (what? he pees on the toilet?) I could no longer pretend that my baby is still a baby. I'll fess up and tell you that that at the ripe age of 2 years and five months he still has a warm bottle of milk before bed - a ritual we all enjoy despite the ridiculousness of cradling a 30 pound boy like a newborn - and the idea of toilet training was on the distant horizon, and, yes, he still sleeps in a crib. Well. It's time we pulled our act together over here. What with all the time I spend reading parenting books to equip me to deal with a "spirited" five year old, I've been neglecting poor old Henry. Which really does prove what I knew all along growing up: the easy-going child gets stiffed.

Anyway, Mr. Henry is getting a Big Boy Room. Soon. Parked in the garage for the past three years are a gorgeous but dinged up Art Deco twin-sized bed and a matching tall-boy dresser. We hauled them out on Sunday for inspection. The wood isn't in such good shape in parts, which I don't actually mind, but all that wood just looks so serious. Painting it outright doesn't seem like the thing to do - I love burled wood - but then I remembered this terrific idea, spotted last year on Angelique's lovely blog, and Eureka! This is exactly what I'd like to do with Henry's new bed. I love how the wood peeks through the paint.

Stay tuned. I'll post some before pictures later this week. I may need some help choosing a paint colour.

a bouncy castle swallowed the house

This really does say it all. And by all I'm speaking, of course, about how children take over. They take over your life, your yard, your closets, your world.

The bouncy castle, which really didn't look that big when I viewed it online, arrived early Sunday morning - the day of our summer party. I was in the kitchen threading veggie kebabs when a glow, as orange as a Florida sunset, settled over the room. The vista out the living room window was of a quivering amorphous blob growing at an alarming rate - to the delight of Stella and Henry - until the spires of the castle reached higher than the roof of our bungalow. I'm confident in saying it was a good party. When all is right in their world, all is right in mine.

gone fishing...

.....Gone Fishing!, originally uploaded by imapix.

Taking the long weekend off. Spending it with good friends & neighbours. Squeezing every bit of summer out of the next 30 days - I hope you're doing the same.

Take good care friends,

Nicole